Tarot in the Bedroom

A Playful Way to Spark Intimacy

Valentine’s Day can be great fun…and it can also come with a lot of pressure. Pressure to be sexy, pressure to be romantic, pressure to ‘get it right’. If you’re craving something more playful and present, tarot can be a surprisingly sweet way to set the mood.

Tarot in the Bedroom isn’t about predicting your love life or pulling cards to ‘test’ your partner. It’s about using tarot as a gentle game: a co-created ritual that invites curiosity, laughter, tenderness, and confidence. Whether you’re partnered or flying solo, you can let the cards guide the tone of your night.

Before you begin: Consent and boundaries

Tarot in the bedroom only works when it’s consent-first and pressure-free.

• No coercion. If it’s not an enthusiastic yes, it’s a no.

• No ‘gotcha’ readings. Don’t use tarot to prove a point, catch someone out, or force a conversation they’re not ready for.

• No third-party spying. Bedroom tarot is for you and your partner, or you and yourself.

The Yes / No / Maybe list (keep it non-explicit)

Before you begin, take 3 minutes to create a simple list together.

• Yes: things you’re both genuinely up for (romantic, playful, sensual, affectionate).

• No: clear boundaries.

• Maybe: only if the mood is right, with check-ins.

Then choose:

• Stop words: something simple like “red” (stop), “amber” (slow down), “green” (keep going).

• Check-ins: agree you’ll pause and ask, “Still good?” or “Want to switch?”

If your partner is tarot-shy, offer an opt-out: they can choose the playlist, pick the props, or simply answer the prompts without looking at the cards.

Set the scene (slow, cosy, intentional)

This is your invitation to make it a ritual, not a rush.

• Light a candle (or a few).

• Make cacao, tea, or a little night-time drink.

• Put on a playlist that feels like a soft spell.

• Choose lingerie or something that makes you feel like yourself, only more luminous.

• Bring in props if you want: incense, a scarf for a blindfold, a journal, a favourite oil or scent.

And then, the most important ingredient: imagination. Let the cards inspire you, but let your body and your boundaries lead.

Game 1: Desire, Delight, Devotion

A simple spread that works for couples or solo pleasure. Use the full deck for this game, and let your inspiration out to play by saying the first word that comes to mind when you flip over the card. Avoid restricting yourself with the traditional meaning of the card (especially important if your partner isn’t familiar with tarot) and instead, take inspiration from a colour, figure, or symbol.

1. Desire: What do I want more of tonight?

2. Delight: What would feel delicious and easy?

3. Devotion: What helps me feel safe, cherished, and open?

How to play (partnered):

• Pull three cards together.

• Each of you answers each position out loud.

• Choose one small action from each card to try.

How to play (solo):

• Pull three cards and write a few lines for each.

• Let Devotion guide your aftercare: a bath, a cosy robe, a hand on your heart, a loving word to yourself.

Game 2: The Suit Menu (let the cards choose the vibe)

Shuffle and pull one card from the full deck to set the tone. Use the suit as your menu.

• Cups: romantic, soft, heart-led (slow kisses, eye contact, sweetness)

• Wands: playful, passionate, bold (flirty energy, laughter, a little heat)

• Pentacles: slow, sensual, body-based (touch, scent, texture, massage)

• Swords: teasing, mental, mischievous (wordplay, anticipation, a little challenge)

Upgrade: pull two cards. First card is the vibe, second card is the 'twist'.

Game 3: Truth or Tease

This game is also for use with a full deck and works with the card numbers. Even numbers are ‘Truth’, odd numbers ‘Tease’ or 'Dare'. Pull as many cards as you please each.

• Truth: answer honestly, gently.

• Tease/Dare: offer a playful invitation/invite fun with a dare (follow your consent agreement!).

  
  

Prompt ideas:

• “Tell me something you love about how I show affection.”

• “What makes you feel most desired?”

• “What’s one thing you’d love more of this month?”

• “What’s a fantasy vibe, or a specific act, that calls to you? (romantic, wild, tender, adventurous)”

If you want, you can set a rule: no analysing. Just receive the answer like a gift.

Game 4: The Sensory Ritual (one card, three senses)

In advance of this game, flip through the deck and pull out whatever cards you feel would align with a sensory ritual. I've listed some cards below for inspiration.

Shuffle and pull one card from the selection and let it guide a mini ritual through sound, scent, and touch.

• Sound: choose a song or playlist that matches the card.

• Scent: incense, perfume, oil, candle.

• Touch: slow, intentional contact (hands, hair, shoulders, back, face).

Card inspiration:

• The Empress: indulgent, lush, sensual. Think music, warmth, sweetness, and comfort.

• The Emperor: confident, structured, leading energy. Only with consent, and with clear check-ins.

• 2 of Swords: a blindfold (or eyes closed) to heighten sensation and trust.

• The Hermit: lights out, quiet, inward. A night of whispers and slow presence.

• The Sun: lights on, laughter, warmth, celebration.

Game 5: The Leadership Draw

This is a playful ‘Who leads?’ game.

1. Take out two Court Cards. For example, two Kings, two Queens, or a King and Queen.

2. Decide which card represents you and your partner.

3. Decide together what ‘leading’ means tonight. It might be pace, positions, playlist, prompts, or touch.

4. Shuffle those two cards face-down and draw one.

5. Whoever the card represents leads for an agreed time, then you can reshuffle.

You can expand on this game by adding a few 'tone' cards to shuffle in and draw:

• The Empress: bring in sensual atmosphere and pleasure

• The Emperor: have fun with confident direction and structure

• 2 of Swords: blindfold or eyes closed

• 6 of Pentacles: give and take, taking turns to focus on each other

Optional spicy add-ons

If you want to add a little edge without getting too explicit, choose a few cards in advance and agree what they mean. For example:

Pull an Ace: try something new

If you pull any Ace, one partner suggests something you haven’t tried before. Keep it within your Yes/No/Maybe list, and make it small enough to feel fun rather than intimidating.

Pages: curiosity and learning

If you pull a Page, treat it like permission to be curious. You might read a short article together, explore a new romantic idea, or simply ask better questions. (No pressure to ‘perform’, just permission to learn.)

Ace of Wands: bold desire and pleasure

Many readers call this card “big D energy”, and you can absolutely let it mean confident, enthusiastic pleasure. If it feels like a yes for both of you, you might interpret Ace of Wands as:

• a focus on giving pleasure to the partner who loves to receive in that way

• oral pleasure

• or simply letting the partner who feels more ‘bold’ take the lead for a while

Safety note: agree in advance what’s on the Yes/No/Maybe list, and check in as you go. You can always switch to something softer.

6 of Pentacles: give and take

If you pull 6 of Pentacles, make it mutual and unhurried. You can interpret it as:

• taking turns to give the other partner pleasure in their favourite way

• a ‘you first, then me’ rhythm

• or a simple practice of generosity and receiving

The Devil: power, temptation, and a clear yes

If you pull The Devil, treat it as intensity with responsibility. Only choose this interpretation if it’s a clear yes for both of you.

You might interpret it as:

• hands tied (with a soft scarf, nothing that restricts breathing)

• a little consensual power play (one partner directing, the other receiving)

Safety note: keep it simple, keep it safe, and keep your stop words active. If either of you says your stop word, everything stops immediately, no questions asked.

A gentle reminder (because you’re allowed to change your mind)

You can pause at any point. You can laugh. You can say, “Actually, not tonight”. You can pull a new card. The goal is not performance. The goal is connection.

If you’d like, close the ritual with a final one-card pull:

“What do we want to remember from tonight?”

And if you’re solo, try:

“What part of me deserves more tenderness?”

Tarot can absolutely bring a giggle and a spark into the bedroom, but it can also bring something deeper. When you let the cards set the tone, you’re giving yourselves a gentle way to talk about desire, boundaries, tenderness, and what you truly want, without shame and without pressure. Sometimes the most intimate thing isn’t what happens next, but the honesty that opens when you feel safe enough to say, “This is what I like”, “This is what I’m curious about”, and “This is what helps me feel close to you”. Let tarot in the bedroom be playful. Let it be sacred. Let it be yours.

If you feel called…

If you feel called to explore love, intimacy, and connection with a little more clarity, you’re warmly invited to book a reading with me.

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